When you are given a difficult task, cancer, death, or anything. You can choose one of three options to get through it. You can choose to be angry, depressed and upset. You can choose to be indifferent, and just let life take you where it will OR you can choose to be positive, don't spend to much time asking "why" or feeling sorry for yourself. Move forward and embrace each moment.
All three of these options will typically end in the same resolution. The difference is the journey. One will be filled with rocks you can't climb and tears and anger at every turn. The other you will walk through and miss the beautiful terrain, the rainbows, the flowers. The third allows you to grieve openly for the easier path but stand in awe at the beauty that surrounds you. The hands of your family and friends pulling you through and the beautiful moments along the way. I have chosen this option.
I miss Dave every second, every moment, every day. I miss his touch, his laughter and my best friend. I am angry at times, sad at times and somedays I don't want to get out of bed at all. All of these things are OK as long as they don't last. The pathway still stretches out before me and there are still mountains to climb but along the way I will see beauty and experience moments that I will treasure for the rest of my life. I know Dave walks with me and he is part of all of these moments.
In passing the one year angel-versary of his leaving this earth. Each of the options held some appeal. I wanted to be angry, sad and upset that all of our dreams as a couple came to an end that day. Stay in bed and cry for everything that I lost. The option of total denial, not thinking, not feeling and letting the day pass without my participation held some allure as well. Luckily, I chose the third option, we celebrated his life! We stood strong as family and friends, we were grateful for the moments we had and the lessons Dave taught us in such a short time. We passed a memory on to our grandchildren that although death is sad and we miss the person terribly we can celebrate their life and the fact that we have each other. What a beautiful day we had. I know Dave is very proud.
So whatever tribulation you are given in your life, you have choices. I hope you choose the one that allows you to continue living! We pay tribute in that way. Dave you taught me to Live Loud and I will strive to Live a Life Uncommon, until we meet again in that beautiful Place!
David Allen Ledesma
November 26, 1966 - April 28, 2009
Keep teaching us how to live!