A disposition to be generous or helpful, goodwill. Mercy, clemency
Divine love and protection bestowed freely on people.
A sense of what is right.
While our family was going through one of the most difficult times of our lives, a Doctor gave me one of the best compliments I have ever received. It has been a comment that has stayed with me, inspired me and challenged me through the years. He said that through the cancer diagnosis, our family had taken the challenge with Grace. He said other things as well, but this is the one that kept me thinking.
I had always thought of grace by the first definition I had listed, effortless beauty or charm. After days of no sleep, pony tails, wrinkled clothes and no make-up, that term did NOT apply to me! We are a loud and crazy family who disrupted the hospital with football games, laughter, jokes and Dave's all time favorite, mooning the family any time he stood up. Again, this definition did NOT apply to us!
The Dr said it with such sincerity after seeing our antics, I felt he really meant it. So, what does Grace mean? The remaining definitions I wrote above made more sense. Generous, helpful, goodwill, mercy, clemency; these words were certainly true. As a family we stand together, we fight together, we love and forgive together. I was starting to understand his meaning.
I watched the volunteers and staff at the hospital and I understood the statement, divine love and protection bestowed freely on people. I saw families of other patients reach out to one another to help, even through their own personal Hell.
Once, I became a widow, I truly learned what Grace means. The neighbor who takes care of the little things so they do not clutter an already cluttered mind. A coworker who buys you lunch to make sure you are eating. The family who comes when you call and comes even faster when you don't. Another widow reaching out to you through her own pain to help you up. This is true Grace.
Of course, I love to hear any compliment somebody would like to give me but I would prefer to hear that I live with Grace.