I have never considered myself the type to go to group therapy or even consider grief groups. I found myself not eating, not sleeping and feeling like I was losing my mind. One of these nights at about 2am, I was awake and upset and going through my list of people I could call. I realized that each of them would have been willing to take the call but they would have no idea what to say or how to help. They would end up worried and tired and I wouldn’t feel any better.
I turned to the place that never sleeps, the internet. I started typing in searches; young widow, cancer widow, widow that can’t sleep, widow not taking care of herself. I started to find resources. One of the first that I found was The Soaring Spirit’s Loss Foundation. It was full of inspiration and resources. They even had a program called Widow Match which helped me to meet someone that was in a similar place as I was. We spent many, many sleepless nights helping each other. (Thanks Becky)
I also found a site called Widow’s Wear Stilettos and even surprised myself when I signed up to start the Utah Chapter of Widow’s Wear Stilettos. There have been many Widows and Widowers that have come into my life through this program. They have become my sisters and brothers. We have walked this journey together and held each other up during the dark hours. Through Facebook and a program called Camp Widow, I have met hundreds of widows & widowers.
If you find people with the same problems, passions or goals and expand your circles to include them, you will never be alone. I have seen the power of this in the Widow community, cancer community, and even in various sports programs- Hockey, rodeo & soccer mom’s for instance. I see it very clearly in the blogging community.
Find your peeps! You will never be alone and they will help you through your difficult times, to reach a goal or move forward. Even better, you will be able to help someone and there is nothing better than that!