This article was written in loving memory for Stephen by his loving wife Tara Berberich
The story of the "watch"
Stephen and I were on a cruise in 2003 and the man who never, I mean NEVER, asked for anything, said to me that he always wanted a Rolex watch. So, while we were in St. Thomas, we stopped at the Rolex store. We were there FOR EVER. He was anal about everything. Which I loved about him. So, after trying on almost all the watches in his price range, he picked out his "special" watch. We nearly missed the ship it took so long, but he had his "special" package in tow. Now, Stephen was an electrician, so, he could not wear this watch everyday, so, he packed it away, carefully at first. But after some time, looked in catalog after catalog for a "special" watch winder, for his "special" watch. Once the watch winder came in, he unpacked his "special" watch from it's case, and placed it carefully in its "special" watch winder place, and adored it from his dresser. Never to wear it, only to look at it. When finally, one day, a year or so later, it was his parents 50th anniversary, and there was a celebration. He was to give a toast, and dress up. So I asked hopefullly, "Stephen, are you going to wear your watch?" to which he replied, "no, I am saving it for something "special". I walked away shaking my head, but, trusting that he knew what that would be.
Days, and months, and yes, years had passed. I watched him adore his "special" watch in its "special" watch winder on his dresser, when finally, his older sister was getting married. The day was upon us and he was putting on his tuxedo, looking all hot, and I approached with bated breath, and asked, "Stephen, are you going to wear your watch?" To which he replied, "no, I'm saving it for something special." I said, "what could be more special, but your sister's wedding? Your in a tuxedo, and this will be her only wedding?" He said plainly, "nope, saving it for something special." I was so disappointed, but, I knew that he would not budge, so I left it alone.
Another year went by, watching that damn watch winder spinning his "special" watch around and around, when it came time for my parents 50th wedding anniversary party. Knowing what the answer would be, but not wanting to miss an opportunity to see if "today" would be the day, I asked with a little hope, "Stephen, are you going to wear your watch?" To which he replied, "no, I'm saving it for something "special".
Eight months later, he died in a car accident, and NEVER EVER got to wear his "special" watch. NOT ONCE.
I don't know what could have been so special, what event that he was saving that "special" watch for. But let me tell you this.
I now wear that "special" watch. EVERY DAY. Because you know what? Every day is special. We have found that there are NO guarantees in life, and that tomorrow is not promised to ANY OF US. SO, use your wedding china, EVERY DAY, use your crystal, EVERY DAY, and for God's sake, WEAR YOUR DAMN WATCH!
I shared this word for word as it was written by Stephen's wife Tara who proudly wears his watch everyday. What is your "watch"? Are you waiting to take a trip, purchase something special or go on an adventure? Do it now! Waiting for tomorrow is a gamble because tomorrow may never come. #wearthedamnwatch